It is important to understand that Parental Alienation is a form of child abuse.
The manipulation of one’s children to the belief that their other parent does not love them, is the cruelest form of child abuse. Since it is the parent child- relationship that orients a child’s understanding of their own sense of self and their lovability, teaching a child that one of their parents does not love them, also teaches them that they are in some basic way, unlovable, or not worthy of love.
While alienated children typically describe hatred or fear of the alienated parent, gently probing into the nuances of these negative feelings, virtually always reveals that these children believe that the Alienated Parent is self-centered, not interested in their well being, and unloving. They are taught, and come to believe that they are not loved by that parent.
This is absolutely child abuse in its most pure form. Parental Alienation is child abuse.
Given this, it should not be surprising to realize that parents who perpetrate this form abuse, are also prone to other form of abuse. The literature clearly indicates that those prone to domestic violence are prone to multiple forms of domestic violence. As we see an increased tendency for truly abusive parents to misuse the diagnosis of PA to explain why their children may not be close to them, or may be reticent to visit with them after marital separation, it perhaps should not be surprising to then see that when these parents are successful in mis-portraying the other parent as being an Alienating Parent, that they themselves then tend to become the true Alienating Parent.
Adults prone to domestic violence, tend to be prone to multiple expressions of abuse. Once these abusive parents have their children more in their control that they ever had before, these children become extremely vulnerable to becoming quickly alienated from the parent whom they used to look to for protection.
How does someone find an expert therapist to testify in court about alienation? What specific education or professional experience qualifications should they have?
I do that all the time. Not sure why they have to be a therapist, however, I think you’re just looking for an expert. Experts should have specific education in this area, have a training background by teaching attorneys, mental health professionals, etc., and have given testimony in a fairly large number of cases. They have to be comfortable on the stand and be able to field questions from attorneys and judges. They should also have a robust library on topics on and related to parental alienation. I hope this answers your question. Thank you a good question.
Being a dad who was never allowed to be part of his sons life how do I prove alienation? What steps can I take to with hold my information towards my ex? If I can prove my statements are true what actions can be taken towards her?
An informed attorney should help. But I suggest you focus on your relationship with your son and not so much taking action against her. Regaining your relationship is enough.
Is there any way we could just get an affidavit for court for this? My daughter is trapped in the Philippines and my ex-wife thinks it’s funny to alienate me and refuse to even allow me contact even though I’ve done nothing wrong.
I know your question sounds simple enough, but when it comes to legal matters you really need the advice of an attorney. Yes, you can get an affidavit but will that be the best approach? I don’t know. The best to you.